about me

Well hello! I'm Mary. I love that whenever I meet someone that shares my name, they're generally pushing 80. Those are my kind of people. 

You can hear me on the Coffee and Donuts radio show and podcast with my good Catholic pal John Lundeen at Mater Dei Radio. 

I'm a gluten-free, Catholic, California girl. My Dad has fought cancer, my Mom is a prayer warrior, my sister has autism, and my husband has fibromyalgia

We have a lot to pray for. We like novenas. 

If I had 10 million dollars, I'd build a private day school for adults with developmental disabilities that challenged their creativity and brought the most joy possible to their lives. And then I'd build a generational home for my family. And then I'd give the rest to Abby Johnson to use for And Then There Were None. Seriously. She's my hero.

I'm Momma to Joe, Amby, Mary Gus and little Steve.

You can read their birth stories here and here and here.

I take them on airplanes. I take them to Mass. I take them to pray in front of abortion clinics

I want my children to know that we vote with our feet. And when you're little (while your feet are still tiny, unshod, slightly chubby and totally kissable), your mother votes for you with her feet. 

I married a good man who knew me for five years and pursued me for one, even though I turned him down at least three times. I admire persistence. I also admire broad shoulders. Ahem.

I began this blog because I envisioned myself as a young Catholic apologist who fought her culture battles from home. In the years since I've realized I'm an apologist for home itself, and for other sacred things. For marriage properly understood. For children to be born whether they're "planned" or not. For vocations, sacrifices, and saying the Angelus.

I want to share my faith with the world. I figure there's no harm in beginning domestically.


Drop me a line, any ol' time.

domesticapologist (at) gmail (dot) com


  1. Awesome!! We have a lot in common. So nice to find your blog.

  2. Just found your blog via Moxie Wife's 5 Faves. Just wanted to give a nod to your name. My sweet and rambunctious just turned three year old is Mary. (Most often Mary Jane) She rarely meets another Mary under 80.. so I'll count you as one of her Mary friends :)

    1. I would LOVE to be her friend! :) Wouldn't you love to see Mary make a comeback as a girl's name? God willing I'll have a baby girl one day and will get to pass it on. Mary Jane is such a beautiful combo.

    2. Well, my middle name is Mary. I didn't appreciate it when I was young, but I promised God that if he blessed me with another girl, I would name her Mary.

      I also have Fibromyalgia. It's a cross for sure.

  3. My daughter is Mary Elyse! She's 8, but wants to be 13 like her big sister, Sylvia. (Another "old" name) Never once have we met another Sylvia under 80. Nice to meet you!

    1. HELLO! I apologize for just seeing this now, months later!! :) Old names are such a treat. Lots of love to you and your family!

  4. I'm sure your husband gets this a lot, but he's a dead ringer for Eddie Redmayne!

    1. Haha! I'm just seeing this comment now--too funny. Someone else from our parish just told us that same thing this summer!

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